Here is the journal entry I made 3-days ago for My Son. Where I get into the differences of how girls are raised differently than boys. I meant to post this 3-days ago, sorry about that. Hope you all are DOING WELL WHEREVER YOU ARE! AND IN WHATEVER YOU'RE DOING!
Good Morning SON!
OKAY!? I'm sure you saw by the heading that this is actually a pretty serious conversation, even though it looks and seems harmless.
First-&-foremost?
The unfortunate reason why you have had to grow up without me being there for you is directly tied to your mother's decision to lie and claim I'd beaten her. The real reason why she did this is because I told her I needed a divorce from her. And I needed a divorce from her because of she was constantly making decisions that were negatively impacting all of us, without any concern for all of our safety-n-welfare.
She acted this way because this is the way she was allowed to act, growing up. She was ALLOWED to be impulsive and reckless. Never told to talk to people first before just randomly doing something rash and then running to her parents or whomever else, needed to be saved or protected FROM HER OWN ACTIONS.
The problem began when I DECIDED TO BECOME INVOLVED WITH YOUR MOTHER AND THEN CONTINUED TO BE WITH HER AND SHE CONSTANTLY SHOWED ME HER RECKLESSNESS.
The caps are for emphasis, because that is the first lesson from me to you. To save you A LOT OF TROUBLE IN YOUR FUTURE the way I WAS NOT TAUGHT-N-TOLD THESE THINGS BY MY MOTHER. AFTER SHE'D INTENTIONALLY RAN OFF MY FATHER WHEN I WAS A CHILD. Make no mistake son, MY FATHER? WAS ACTUALLY A DEADBEAT DAD, HOWEVER!?
I would find out by the time I turned 18-years old THAT MY MOTHER INTENTIONALLY DECIDED TO LAY DOWN WITH MY DAD, NOT BECAUSE SHE LOVED HIM.
But because she wanted to GET EVEN WITH HER OWN FATHER.
As you can see, UNFORTUNATELY. I've already given you TWO INSTANCES of TWO DIFFERENT WOMEN WHERE BOTH MADE RECKLESSLY BAD, RECKLESSLY STUPID DECISIONS AND THEN THOUGHT THAT THEY WERE THEN THE VICTIMS.
Society right now ENCOURAGES WOMEN to make these types of moves and it starts when they are girls and they are told about how they're princesses and that they will always be loved and cherished and wanted, NO MATTER WHAT. And while that might seem like it is okay, it is not. Because that means that from the time that a woman was a girl, she was already been SET UP FOR FAILURE AND IRRESPONSIBILITY AND RECKLESSNESS ON THE PERSONAL-LEVEL. By this Princess-Complex of Irresponsibility, because she is never TOLD that a Princess should VIEW HERSELF AS A FUTURE QUEEN AND EMPRESS IN TRAINING, WHICH MEANS SHE WILL EITHER RULE OVER A PLACE-&-RACE OR HELP RULE OVER A PLACE-&-RACE.
Simply being LIKED BECAUSE SHE'S THE PRINCESS, is NOT ENOUGH. SHE MUST CARRY AND CONDUCT HERSELF IN A MANNER THAT MAKES HER WORTHY OF THE TITLE. And this part is NEVER TOLD TO GIRLS. And this is what sets TOO MANY OF THEM UP FOR FAILURES IN THEIR PERSONAL-LIVES.
But?!?!?
WE AS BOYS. We are TRAINED. TAUGHT. AND HELD ACCOUNTABLE FROM DAY-1! THAT WE MUST DO GOOD AND BE WORTHY OF BEING A GIRL'S BOYFRIEND. THE FAMILY'S REPRESENTATIVE. AND A PROVIDER AND PROTECTOR, A PILLAR! IN OUR SOCIETY, COMMUNITY, COUNTRY AND PEOPLE.
GIRLS!?
Are NOT GIVEN THIS TRAINING. And I for one DO NOT APPROVE OF IT OR LIKE IT. Because what it actually means is that ANY PLACE THAT DOES NOT TEACH THIS SIMPLE BUT NEEDED FACT TO FEMALES WHEN THEY ARE LITTLE GIRLS? Begins the process of SETTING THE GIRL UP TO BELIEVE SHE CAN DO NO WRONG AND ONLY NEEDS TO SMILE AND BAT HER EYE-LASHES AND ACT CUTE AND THAT WILL SEEMINGLY GET HER OUT OF WHATEVER MESS SHE MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE INTENTIONALLY GOTTEN HERSELF INTO.
For US AS BOYS AND MEN?
THAT KIND OF BEHAVIOR IS TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE AND WE WILL QUICKLY BE APPROACHED BY BOTH OTHER BOYS-&-MEN, AS WELL AS GIRLS-&-WOMEN. FOR OUR UNDISCIPLINED AND RECKLESS, IF NOT FLAT OUT CHILDISH, BEHAVIOR.
So this first talk is to let you know son that EXPECTATIONS AND HOW BOYS-&-GIRLS ARE GENERALLY RAISED, ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT AND RIGHT NOW THE STANDARDS FOR GIRLS NEEDS TO BE STEPPED UP AND THAT IS NOT BEING DONE. The STANDARD FOR US AS MALES, AS BOYS-&-MEN, HAS ALSO BEEN LOWERED. And as Your Father, I need to TELL YOU THIS, EXPLAIN THIS TO YOU, RIGHT NOW. SO YOU CAN SEE THAT YOUR STANDARD FOR GIRLS-&-WOMEN SHOULD BE CENTERED AROUND HOW WELL DOES SHE HANDLE HERSELF WHEN SOMETHING SHE HAS DECIDED TO DO?
Didn't go the way she wanted it to go.
That will tell you all you need to know on whether you should try to date her and be with her.
How a girl handles ADVERSITY IS CRITICAL IN THIS DAY AND AGE and I will get into that in the next email later on today. Because we need to talk and I need to MAKE SURE you DO NOT REPEAT THE MISTAKES I MADE WITH CHOOSING THE WRONG WOMEN.
Okay!?
^_^
I LOVE YOU AND I MISS YOU VERY MUCH!
I hope you are having A GREAT DAY!
Let me go on ahead and get to work!
It's raining outside, so put a cap or a hood on, son.
Love, Your Father
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