Single-Parenting is a fuckin waste of time and is an almost guaranteed way to fuckin Fail.
Even when I look at the very words SINGLE-PARENT...?
It has become something that IT NEVER SHOULD BE.
For STARTERS?
The word-term SHOULD ONLY APPLY WHEN THE OTHER PARENT HAS DIED.
It should NEVER BE USED in regards to anything OUTSIDE OF THAT.
This has more to do with DEFINING HOW THINGS ARE TO BE DONE, a Code of Conduct, where words, words-terms, ACTIONS-&-DESCRIPTORS, convey CONCEPTS THAT ARE THEN CARRIED OUT BY US.
This is the why I have typed that YOUR CUSTOMS are the FOUNDATION.
This is a set of concepts that are written out that an individual &/or group is supposed to then enact.
ENACTING THESE CUSTOMS, putting Them into PRACTICE, CREATES YOUR CULTURE.
Once these two BECOME EVERYDAY-HABITS & ELEMENTS-&-ASPECTS OF YOUR LIFE, YOUR GROUP'S LIFE...!?
That GIVES YOU YOUR CODE OF CONDUCT.
Each one of these seem simple-&-straightforward enough, easy enough, but to carry Them out IT REQUIRES ENVIRONMENTAL-&-PSYCHOLOGICAL STABILITY, meaning that You can actually be cash-strapped or resource-strapped.
But if ONE OF YOUR CUSTOMS is CENTERED AROUND THE ACQUISITION OF MONEY-&-RESOURCES, then YOUR CULTURE ONCE THIS IS ENACTED WILL BE ABOUT THE GAINING-PURUITS OF MONEY-&-RESOURCES AND BECAUSE OF THIS YOUR CODE OF CONDUCT WILL COME INTO EXISTENCE AS YOU CARRY OUT YOUR CUSTOMS-&-CULTURE, meaning...?
If it is all about the acquisition of money-&-resources?
Then someone or a group with THIS KIND OF CUSTOM-&-CULTURE will DO WHATEVER IS NEEDED TO ACHIEVE THEIR GOAL OF GAINING MONEY-&-RESOURCES.
By Default it should be obvious that ANY GROUP with THIS AS A CUSTOM IS INHERENTLY UNTRUSTWORTHY WHEN ENCOUNTERED BY OTHER GROUPS WHERE THIS IS NOT A CUSTOM OF THEIRS.
Customs FORM THE CORE OF WHO YOU ARE AS EITHER AN INDIVIDUAL &/OR A GROUP. In EASIER-TERMS they would & are called Principles, Values, Ideals, Beliefs and even Morals. The Creation of a Custom is akin to CREATING A CONCEPT.
The PRACTICE OF YOUR PRINCIPLES, VALUES, IDEALS, BELIEFS & MORALS CREATE YOUR CULTURE, in EASIER-TERMS they are THE LITERAL APPLICATION OF YOUR CUSTOMS THAT YOU HAVE DECIDED TO LIVE-BY OR HAVE ACCEPTED FROM OTHERS WHO HAVE LAID OUT THAT THIS IS WHAT THE CUSTOMS ARE FOR YOUR GROUP.
The Content of Your Character COMES FROM YOUR CODE OF CONDUCT, HOW YOU MAKE YOUR DECISIONS.
AND HOW YOU MAKE YOUR DECISIONS IS BASED OFF OF THE GUARD-RAILS, BOUNDARIES, CREATED BY THE CUSTOMS YOU &/OR YOUR GROUP CAME UP WITH AND THEN THEIR ENACTMENT...!
Your RANGE OF DECISION-MAKING...?
Is BASED OFF OF THESE AFOREMENTIONED-TWO.
Thus if You come from or are a part of or AS AN INDIVIDUAL have decided that "Family means everything even if & when family is flawed & fucked-up to high-hell"...!?
Then YOUR CODE OF CONDUCT will REFLECT THAT YOU WILL BRAG ABOUT YOUR FAMILY & PRESENT THE BEST IMAGES & TELL THE BEST STORIES UNTIL SOMEONE OUTSIDE OF YOUR FAMILY LEARNS THE TRUTH.
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And I type this easy-example ON PURPOSE.
Because THE ACTUAL CUSTOM ISN'T FAMILY.
IT'S LYING.
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See how quickly shit can become distorted.
You can have WHAT SHOULD BE A GREAT "CUSTOM", build strong families.
But IF SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS HONESTY ISN'T A PART OF YOUR CUSTOMS & NOBODY DOES ANY INTROSPECTION &/OR DIAGNOSTICS TO MAKE SURE THAT BUILDING STRONG FAMILIES DOESN'T AUTO-INCLUDE A LACK OF HONESTY ABOUT WHETHER THE FAMILIES BEING BUILT ARE SCUMBAG-MONSTERS WHO MANIPULATE ONE ANOTHER & THEN SIT AROUND AMONGST THEMSELVES & SULK ABOUT HOW SHITTY THE FAMILY/FAMILIES, ARE, meanwhile...?
Everyone OUTSIDE OF THE FAMILY IS SHOWN THIS UNIFIED FRONT OF HOW GREAT & LOVING EVERYBODY IS WITHIN THE FAMILY.
Which means another Custom that is a part of this group IS PHONINESS.
Again, this all seems REALLY SIMPLE IN AN ALMOST SILLY-WAY, but it IS NOT. This is why I never tell anyone TO TURN THEIR BRAIN OFF. And I keep an eye on THOSE WHO ENCOURAGE THAT KIND OF SILLY-DANGEROUS SHIT. Because Life is actually ALWAYS DEEPER THAN IT APPEARS TO BE, no matter how much anyone tries to lie & claim otherwise.
This all comes back to My Title & My Point that anyone who THINKS THAT BEING A SINGLE-PARENT IS ANYTHING TO BE PROUD OF OR A GOOD THING, is a Fuckin Fool, LITERALLY.
For starters You couldn't even PRODUCE THE CHILD WITHOUT THE OTHER PERSON, for starters, FOR.
STARTERS.
You then NEED TO HAVE AN HONEST-ASSESSMENT OF WHAT YOU INTEND TO DO IN REARING-&-RAISING THE CHILD, A CHILD, CHILDREN, IN THE FIRST PLACE.
If You CAN'T EVEN FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR OWN LIFE...?
Then YOU'RE NOT READY TO TRY TO THEN SHAPE-LEAD-&-MOLD A COMPLETELY NEW LIFE.
I need to point out I AM SKIPPING A LOT OF INFORMATION HERE ON PURPOSE.
Because it is MEANT TO CAUSE YOU TO THINK & TO QUESTION WHAT I HAVE TYPED & THROUGH THAT...!?
RUN A SELF-DIAGNOSTIC AND DO SOME INTROSPECTION ON YOURSELF.
^_^
This isn't about ME.
Getting YOU.
To AGREE WITH ME.
This is about ME.
Telling YOU.
WHAT I THINK.
And then YOU.
THINKING TO YOURSELF.
DO YOU AGREE.
DISAGREE.
WHY.
ETC-ETC, where YOU END UP THINKING ABOUT SOMETHING THAT MUST BE THOUGHT ABOUT.
And careful because all of that is laced with all kinds of tricks-&-traps, again, ON PURPOSE.
Where MY GENERAL POINT IS WHAT I TYPED.
But My Reasons, which should be obvious, are not as clearly defined as I've made them out to be, IN THE ABOVE INSTANCE.
I find it fascinating how We have been DUPED into thinking being a single-parent has any worth, creates stability, and that MARRIAGE?
Is a pathetic waste of time, and once again, it seems straightforward. But I need to REMIND YOU that when did marriage become so...?
DISTASTEFUL...?
UNEVEN?
Now be careful.
Because what I've done in typing these questions APPEARS TO BE EASY TO ANSWER, but the Thought-Conclusions YOU WILL REACH WILL TELL YOU MORE ABOUT YOURSELF THAN ANYTHING I CAN EVER TYPE TO TELL YOU ABOUT ME.
You of course WILL HAVE YOUR PRIVACY.
Only YOU.
Will KNOW WHAT YOUR OWN THOUGHTS WERE-&-ARE.
And for some THEY WILL LIKE THAT and may even think that I am idiotic to type some or most of what I type, HOWEVER, even IN THAT...!?
You reveal SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF & THE SOCIETY AROUND US, where...?
It SHOULD BE DISTURBING.
Because IF PEOPLE CAN'T SPEAK HONESTLY WITH ONE ANOTHER ABOUT IMPORTANT ISSUES THAT SHAPE-MOLD-&-DEFINE OUR SOCIETY, then...?
Something IS ACTUALLY WRONG.
^_^
And You knew that already, right...?
Right?
OF COURSE YOU DID.
There is more I wish to type but I simply needed to get THIS MUCH off My Mind & onto this post, so I can go back to what I am doing.
This post is INTENTIONALLY INCOMPLETE.
But I've typed ENOUGH for it to...?
Make sense.
For now....
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