Blackmen and Blackwomen, We Must Decide Where Our Priorities Are....

Good Morning from I'm Not Dead Yet PHILADELPHIA!

HA-HAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! YEAH! WHY AM I SO HAPPY!? Because I just paid a bill using my BRAND NEW DEBIT CARD! Now? I know for some of you, you're like "HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAH! LOOK AT THIS CLOWN! HE'S HAPPY ABOUT PAYING A BILL WITH A DEBIT CARD! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHH!"
^_^!
It's okay IF YOU ARE LAUGHING, but I have been down the Whitewashed Highway of being a so-called "DEADBEAT BLACK FATHER" where I know that if people on my block, especially at my barbershop were to read this they'd be like "C'MON MAN!? WHY DO YOU PUT YOURSELF DOWN LIKE THAT!? YOUR EX-WIFE DID SOME FOUL FUCKIN SHIT MAN!" especially if I go to my original barbershop on 52nd Street in West Philadelphia, Bill's Barbershop! So again!? This isn't some BULLSHIT-ASS BLOG! With BULLSHIT-ASS BULLSHIT where EVERYTHING IS IN CODE AND I TALK TO YOU ALL VANILLA AND SHIT AND PEOPLE'S NAMES AND PLACES ARE CHANGED AROUND TO SPARE MUTHAFUCKA'S FEELINGS AN SHIT! NAW NAW NAW NAW!

Real people, places, and events, because as one person told me a long time ago when I started this journey "You're like a BLACK ODYSSEUS! TRYING TO MAKE YOUR WAY BACK TO YOUR SON!" And he was QUITE RIGHT! Noni and I were together for 11-years and the facts of the matter were just as I've said since day one, she gave me MORE THAN ENOUGH WARNINGS of what kind of woman she was. But I kept on making excuses and believing that if I LOVED HER MORE AND SHOWED HER HOW MUCH I LOVED HER?

Then she'd MAGICALLY DELICIOUS straighten up and fly right.

Now? Watch this. I am fully aware that this is SUPPOSEDLY the way that a "WOMAN THINKS". However I know that MY READERS ARE SMARTER THAN THAT, and why? Because if you're still here and reading and following my Hits-n-Misses in My Life, then you know that if your first thought was that this is "how a woman thinks", then that means you already have been indoctrinated in White Thought, Customs, Culture, and PROPAGANDA. Because IF that thought was what came to your mind, then how do you explain the times when you or your friends or a coworker, all males, all MEN, tried to make a relationship work when it was obvious that the woman just couldn't cut it or just wasn't able to keep up. And bear in mind, cuz this is important, you have the;

1) Woman who Can't Cut It. This is a catch-all, so throw whatever you want in that one. She fucked your best friend. She was abusive. She was untrustworthy, etc! You can throw almost anything into this one and then explain as you see fit. But the second one? This one is RARELY TALKED ABOUT, because based off of White Customs and Culture it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things so it gets overlooked and simply tossed into this catch-all of Can't Cut It.

2) Woman who Can't Keep Up. This type of woman is actually hindered either by her upbringing, parents never taught her shit, or worse? They let her do whatever she thought, but never disciplined her for whenever her decisions were wrong. Never applied herself because of low-expectations. Tries too hard to be everybody's friend and by default doesn't actually have any friends. Denies the seriousness of White Supremacy because she thinks Love will Win Out or Talking will Win Out or Swirling will Win Out. Wants to do better but simply Can't, you can insert whatever reason you wish, but? She's a good woman, but she's always a step late when it comes to dealing with abstract-issues like her importance as a Mother and the fact that as a Mother whatever she does or doesn't know, effects/affects you, your children with her and her in general. Sister Shahrazad Ali touches on this abstract-issue where she talks about the fact that MAINTAINING A CHILD is not the same as actually RAISING A CHILD. Shoes, clothes, food, roof over head? This is MAINTAINING A CHILD. Sense of Self, Morale Compass, Right-n-Wrong, Sense of Identity, What it means to be Black, Standards, Goal-setting and Goal-GETTING, the Difference between Obtaining Something AND ACHIEVING SOMETHING, these are issues that constitute RAISING A CHILD SO THEY CAN BE A SUCCESSFUL, PRODUCTIVE, FUNCTIONAL BLACK ADULT.

In regards to Noni she was ALWAYS in Category-1 and it was never about her being unable to keep up. She willfully made bad choices for the sake of making a bad situation worse AND I should have bought a clue and got a vowel and solved the puzzle and moved on. I will be the first one to say that I wish it was THAT EASY ALL THE TIME. I wish it was that easy to just TURN EMOTIONS OFF, but if it WERE that easy? Then WE WOULDN'T BE HUMAN, now would we. And that is part of the meaning of life, learning. It is up to us to LEARN how to PROPERLY JUDGE PEOPLE, PLACES, RACES, FACES, SITUATIONS, CIRCUMSTANCES AND THE LIKE.
Anyone who uses that shitty-ass excuse of "It's up to God to judge" is just a bullshittin-ass BASTARD OR BITCH, who is trying to DEFLECT, usually because the person in judgment IS THEM AND THEY FINALLY GOT THEIR FOUL-ASS CAUGHT!

Cough-cough, CREFLO DOLLAR! Cough-cough, CREFLO DOLLAR!

So I don't roll with the BLAME GOD, BLAME JESUS BULLSHIT-EXCUSES. Anybody who throws them shits at you, YO!? Turn annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd, RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN-AWAY! Get the fuck away from ANYBODY who tosses those two lame-ass excuses at you. Stacey's family loved that shit "God this" and "God that" but they damn sure weren't worried about God when they're stealing money, molesting family-members, having FAKE MARRIGES or cheating and beating on one another! What the fuck!? Like God would want anything to do with that kind of shit! It's another reason why I don't play the whole Holy-Roller, Jesus Christ Superstar-shit! I keep my spiritual beliefs tight to the vest and only RARELY DISCUSS THEM, because as a Black Person I have seen all too often how Our Spirituality has been used to ENSLAVE US, LITERALLY! So I keep my spiritual beliefs and opinions TO MYSELF. Either way?

When a Blackman goes too far with a woman, any woman, on an emotional level and things don't work out instead of compassion and understanding it has now become a thing of mocking and ridiculing, which is totally counterproductive and a GREAT WAY to drive people to STOP BEING HONEST ABOUT WHAT WENT ON IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP. They also have no reason to talk about WHY THEY RODE WITH IT FOR SO LONG WHEN CERTAIN THINGS WERE OBVIOUSLY WRONG AND THEY SHOULD HAVE SEEN THEM SOONER. Once it becomes unpopular or humiliating to tell the truth then people will simply not say anything or simply lie to cover their ass because they don't want the truth to get out that they honestly wanted things to work, but it simply wasn't or couldn't for whatever reason/s. But making fun of a Blackman who is honestly putting forward the effort to love and be there for his Blackwoman? Once you make a man of any kind feel like he's an ass if he tells you the truth about his feelings, you can forget it. This is where we now get the childish crap of name calling like SIMPIN and Captain Save-A-Ho and all of the rest of these childishly-stupid phrases and shit here in the Black American community, NOW UNDERSTAND!? That part of the reason why these phrases and cultural traits have come about is because we are a People under CONSTANT DURESS AND ATTACK! And much like anyone constantly under siege you begin to fray at the corners because of it. So certain human elements-n-aspects that can take a hit VERY QUICKLY are COMPASSION, LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING.

You've seen it before and so have I, there are times when we as Black People just go too fuckin far with what we're doing and just do some REALLY INHUMANE SHIT TO OURSELVES AND OTHERS! Dumb shit like the Knockout Game, where this crap is something that we've been combating here in the Black American Community long before the Whites decided to OVERHYPE IT AND TURN IT INTO PRIME TIME EXPOSE-NEWS FOR EXPLOITATION. But as usual, while it was simply a Black Community Problem, they had nothing to say. Didn't cover it. AND WOULDN'T COVER IT. Were FULLY-AWARE OF IT TOO, but could give two-shits about it! So for as long as it was something going AGAINST US, no biggie, just let the band play on. Eventually when the situation got out of hand and Blacks either adapted to it or FORCED IT OUTSIDE OF OUR COMMUNITY, then it becomes a problem. Much like when Black People try to control crime in our neighborhoods, mysteriously Black Criminals can't stay behind bars. But then when they either can't steal from us anymore OR WE FORCE THEM TO STOP STEALING FROM US, then they head out to the White Communities and steal and now it's time for this Blackman or Blackwoman to FINALLY GO TO JAIL AND STAY THERE. Because they finally stole from White People.

It is a bizarre and treacherous beast, White Supremacy, where unless you KNOW what Whites are up to AT THAT MOMENT? Then common shit becomes complicated. Example? The American Crack-Epidemic was a means to deal with TWO BIRDS WITH ONE STONE. Reagan's administration no longer funded Anti-Communism Movements. But then when shit went south with "American allies" in Central America and a Communist Regime came into existence, the Sandinista's of Nicaragua, HE WANTED THEM OUT! But couldn't get funding from Congress. His ass then turns around AND SAYS WE'LL ALLOW YOU TO RAISE FUNDS TO FIGHT AGAINST THE COMMUNIST BY SELLING CRACK COCAINE IN THE UNITED STATES, BUT ONLY IN THE BLACK NEIGHBORHOODS!!!!!
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As if a FORCEFIELD would keep crack-cocaine from GETTING OUT OF OUR NEIGHBORHOODS AND INFECTING WHITE NEIGHBORHOODS WHEN THE WHITE DRUG-USERS WOULD TAKE THE CRACK THEY BOUGHT IN BLACK NEIGHBORHOODS BACK TO THEIR WHITE NEIGHBORHOODS. Now? If you don't know anything about the Sandinista's and Contras, then you don't know THE CATALYST for the American Crack-Epidemic. Where this PIECE OF SHIT WHITE AMERICAN PRESIDENT SAYS;
"Well? I hate the Commies! And wanna kill'em all! But, well!? I can't raise that kind of money to support your action to get your country back from'em." bear in mind that these assholes that Reagan was backing were fuckin mass-murdering DICKHEADS! These lousy FUCKS! Were merciless, which is WHY THEY GOT OVERTHROWN. So for all of the morality bullshit White Americans talk, they never actually follow through with ANY OF IT WHEN IT MATTERS. Bottom line is Reagan gave these assholes open-access and CIA support to raise funds by using cocaine! Which was flown into America and then converted into crack, but the stipulation was that THEY COULD ONLY SELL THEIR CONVERTED COCAINE IN BLACK AMERICAN COMMUNITIES! I post all of this to show you, regardless of who you are, THE COMPLEXITIES OF HOW FAR WHITE AMERICANS WILL GO TO FUCK OVER BLACK AMERICANS AND BLACK PEOPLE IN GENERAL AND THEY LOSE...!?

ZERO!
SLEEP!
OVER IT!
And NEVER BE FUCKIN HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR IT!
Neither Reagan OR Bush Senior was ever held accountable for doing this, EVER.
So so much for the fuckin United Nations!
And so much for White Europeans too!
FUCK BOTH OF YOU PUSSY-ASS WHITE PR-FIRMS!

Now somewhere within this madness, we as Black People have to be PRODUCTIVE PEOPLE AND HAVE RELATIONSHIPS, HOLD AND CREATE JOBS, RAISE FAMILIES, HAVE CHILDREN AND HAVE STABLE COMMUNITIES. >_< Last time I checked that's a tough road to tow on when YOUR OWN FUCKIN GOVERNMENT IS TRYING TO WIPE YOU OUT OR IS WILLING TO WIPE YOU OUT IF THEY THINK THEY HAVE AN OPENING TO TAKE A SHOT AT YOU!

What does all of this have to do with the header of this post?
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh? See? If you've made it this far, what is missing in all of this? It is the STEADYING INFLUENCE of a Blackman AND the importance of an EMOTIONALLY STABLE Blackwoman. This crazy notion that a Blackwoman can raise a child by herself, was a horrible divide-and-conquer ploy put forward by White Americans through the White American Feminist Movement. White American Democrats introduced in the late 60's early 70's Public Housing, which requires that a Man NOT BE IN THE HOUSE TO BE ABLE TO  RECEIVE PUBLIC HOUSING. >_< Mind you? A trap THIS BLATANT you'd think we'd have been able to AVOID THAT ONE. But when you look at our history here in America and the history of Whites in America, they have a penchant for TROJAN HORSE BUILDING and then luring others, INCLUDING WHITES into lowering their guard so they can then infiltrate whatever the movement-cause of the day they're trying to derail or destroy is, and then DERAIL AND DESTROY IT NOW THAT THEY'VE SNUCK INTO THE MIDST OF IT!

A stable Black Relationship and Marriage where even if things don't work out, then the Blackman and Blackwoman aren't at each other's necks if they need to separate or get divorced. I was celebrating being able to pay a bill with my new debit card because things between my ex-wife and I got so far OUT OF HAND that a COMMON OCCURRENCE IS CAUSE FOR CELEBRATION ON MY PART! So now you look at what I have typed to this point and look at the fact that Our Son DIDN'T NEED TO GROW UP WITHOUT ME IN HIS LIFE. But my ex-wife DECIDED TO TURN TO WHITES TO USE THEM AS A MEANS TO KEEP ME AT BAY. So while she thought she was Charlie Sheen Winning, much like his Wife-Beating, Boozing-Ass, if things are actually done the way they're supposed to, Noni would have to go to jail for LYING ABOUT ME BEATING HER. Mind you I have another means to send her to jail, since I found out way back when all this started that in Nazi-America, a woman can file a false claim of domestic abuse and not suffer any penalties for it. I'm not shocked by that, I've explained why that is in previous posts, but my point is still the same. We as Black People DON'T HAVE TO MAKE LIFE HARDER FOR ONE ANOTHER THAN IT ALREADY IS. It is a choice.
LATER!